A small rant and a reminder

I hate passive aggressiveness.

I don't think anyone loves it, and I'm not going to point to any particular incident because (A) that would be IRONY and (b) I don't have one in mind, but rather a bunch that come to mind that I really wish had been resolved, or at least I could have had a conscious choice to walk away from, instead of always wondering if something was meant passive aggressively, or if I was just reading into something too much -- a thing that happens to me a lot.

But I also see the downside to this "tell it to my face" mentality, because I hate being told off to my face, almost as much as I hate passive aggressiveness. Instead, in my ideal world, I'd rather you'd write me an email or a text, telling me what you think, so then I can cry, over-analyze it and THEN come up with a suitable response.

But because the world doesn't work that way, I have devised the following, called, "if something feels wrong in your gut, follow your instincts." In other words, if someone is making you feel like crap and you don't know why and they won't tell you, and you're not all that close to them, why are you still dealing with them? If your association with them isn't making you feel like the whole person that you are, then stop. Take them off facebook, and get on with your life. Life is too short for phony friends.

So, go through your contacts and your social media every time you start to feel that sinking feeling in your stomach, and get rid of all the people that make you hate yourself, that you don't talk to, that you don't even LIKE or even KNOW, because it's not worth it to keep people, however small on the toxic scale, in your life.

You deserve better.

This has been yet another PSA.

~ Emery

P.S

And while you're at it, same for all those news sites and companies that you follow.

If they're dragging you down, kick 'em off!